I’ll start this off by saying, I don’t know why sometimes we choose to settle, or why we end up telling ourselves we’re okay with it. For some odd reason, I’ve always had far too much time to think and mull over things like this. It’s unfortunate because even when I don’t have the time, I still think and mull over things, even when I’m right in the middle of an actual conversation with other people. I guess that’s one of the problems of believing everything has to have a reason behind it. So if you’ll indulge me and read on, and maybe even discuss this with someone else, or just sign up for the forums to throughly discuss it with me, that’d be great.

The question I’m pondering is, why do we have to settle?

It’s only been recently in the last few monthes that I’ve been thinking long and hard about giving up and settling for what’s put in front of you. Not because I got some raw deal and I have no choice in the matter, but because it’s something that’s always irked me. Is it human nature to just accept things when things don’t exactly go as you planned them? I really don’t want to believe that.

I’m not quite sure how to start this off, or if there’s even a way to start it off. For me this is one of those questions that eats away at you and nags you until you finally sit down to think about it. But when you sit down to think about it, you’re faced with even more questions that you can’t answer, and that can’t be answered in short conversations with others.

I’ll jump right into now.

My question to everyone is this, for what reasons do we decide to give up and settle for something? Be it a crappy job that just gets the bills paid, or some knock-off product we had to get because you couldn’t find the real thing. What’s the purpose of settling? If you took the time to think that you really need to go out and get or achieve something, when do you say “I have to give up” because you couldn’t reach it? Personally I’ve always thought that no matter what obstacle is put in front of you, it’s important that you never give up trying to get it. You can say the same applies to relationships, but I’m not saying go out and stalk somebody (squashed that reasoning for you weirdos). It’s probably one of my worst problems though aswell. The fact that I don’t give up until I get to wherever/whatever I was reaching for, I think might be one of my biggest failings. There’s been numerous times I’ve kept working at something ’til it just wasn’t worth it anymore, and I’m positive that happens to a lot of people.

Now admittedly, countless times I’ve done that simply because something I thought was better came along. But maybe it’s just me and the point where I think I am, I just can’t keep going through life settling for second best. I’m not reaching for the stars or anything, just reaching for simple things, things that are attainable. Though I’m just as guilty as anyone else because I’ve given up on things countless times.